Follow your bliss…

July 2nd, 2009

Sometimes, if you are alone and doing nothing… you’ll just find yourself thinking a lot of things… so many questions are floating in your mind… like, what if… what will be the next thing to do… why am I doing this… am I really happy… but one thing is for sure… you will end up still wondering… and your questions are still left unanswered….

 

Bakit nga ba ganun… dumarating ka sa punto ng buhay mo na ayaw mo na… na napapagod ka na… pero wala kang choice kung hindi ituloy ang nasimulan mo na… Sabi ng nakakarami, kapag mahal mo… natututo kang mag sacrifice… natututunan mong tanggapin ang mga bagay na sa iba eh mahirap tanggapin at mahirap intindihan… pero hanggang kailan mo matatanggap ang isang bagay na alam mong sa una pa lang eh talo ka na… dapat mo pa bang ipaglaban ang isang bagay na alam mong hindi mo ipinaglalaban… dahil alam mo sa sarili mo na wala kang laban… these are few questions na hangga ngayon ang hirap ipaliwanag ang sagot… is this what you call real love???… na just because you love him/her nakakaya mong tiisin ang lahat???… katarantaduhan hind ba????? Pero ano nga ba ang magagawa mo… wala nmn di ba… dahil kahit anong pilit mong isaksak sa iyong isipan mo na mali ang lahat… na hindi dapat… pilit din lumalaban ang puso mo…. Nakakalungkot isipin na kahit alam mong meron kang magagawa…hindi mo kayang gawin… ‘nak ng putsa oh… ang gulo ng ikot ng mundo…pero kung tutuusin iisang direksyon lng naman umiikot ang mundo…pabilog lang naman di ba??? Pero bakit marami ang naliligaw ng daan????…..

 

Well well well, I guess we cannot change the fact that this is what life is all about… facing difficulties, heartaches, different kinds of problems, a lot of humps and bumps in our way… but the important thing here is… you can still stand up despite how many times you fall… you still find solutions in every problem that you face… you still manage to continue driving your life regardless of the humps and bumps… and you still continue to love even if it hurts you a million times…

 

I just want to end this with a quotation I got from one blogger name Larry…

 

“Stop comparing yourself to anyone else, as you’d just be a 2nd rate version of them. You are not them. You’re Different. Be yourself! Like yourself! Right now, YOU are perfect. No one else can ever be like you. Be at peace with that. Accept it. As a human being, I believe that you are great. Regardless of what has happened to you in your life. Regardless of how young or old you think you might be. There is something magnificent about you. There is something powerful within, that’s greater than the world. It will begin to emerge, it will take over your life. It will feed you, It will clothe you, it will guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existenance. If you let it. That is what I know for sure. Feel Good about life. Have Fun With it. “Follow your Bliss.”

 

letting go….

May 27th, 2009

Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man who loves you more.

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. We then start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

 To let go of someone doesn’t mean we have to stop loving, it only means that we allow that person to find his/her own happiness without expecting him/her to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting ourselves free from all bitterness, hatred and anger that keep in our heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away our strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten us, but rather let we grow with wisdom in bearing it.

 We don’t have to forget someone we love. What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for ourselves..
Be sensible and let our mind speak for itself. Listen not only to our feelings but to reason as well.

 Always remember that if we lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow: If we lose love that doesn’t mean we failed in love.
Cry, if we have to, but make it sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to us. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

Sometimes…

November 20th, 2008

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become… you never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way… and sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in refelection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strenght, willpower, or heart…

 

Everything happens for a reason… nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck… illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul… without these small tests, whatever they may be…life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere… it would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless…

 

The people you meet who affect your life… and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and  who you become… even the bad experiences can be learned from… in fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones….

 

If someone hurts you, or betrays you, or breaks your heart forgive them… for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart… if someone loves you,love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things… make every day count…

 

Appreciate every moment and take from these moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again… talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen… let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high… hold your head up because you have every right to… tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you… you can make of your life anything you wish…

 

Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets… most importantly, if you love someone tell them… for you never know what tomorrow may have in store… AND LEARN A LESSON IN LIFE EACH DAY YOU LIVE…

Pra sa mga OFW…

October 21st, 2008

eto po ang isang istorya ng buhay na aking isang kaibigan na itatago ko sa pangalang ANONYMOUS…(hehehe ayaw n daw nya ipalagay name nya…nahiya ang loko…)

sana ay may mapulot kayo kahit konting aral mula rito… enjoy reading… =)

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Sabi nila….. walang totoo at tunay na relasyon sa Dubai, dami nagsasabi, mga kabayan kong pinoy daw pare pareho…. pulos manloloko
… sabi ko naman…. di ah! exmuskeeee!
 
Its been quite a while now since I first set foot in this CITY of GOLD…. Dubai…. City of Tulay…. Lugar ng mga Pasaway….
Until now napapangiti ako pag naaalala ko ang mga unang araw ko dito… grabe…. ikaw ba naman ang manggaling sa pinaka exotic place sa buong mundo….
as in Saudi Arabia … then mapunta ka ng Dubai…. di ka ba naman magtulo ang laway eh….. hehehe!
 
Nung na base ako ng Saudi … grabe… as in dyeta…. balikat lang ng babae… sa chatting pa ha … ulam na…. nung first nyt ko sa Dubai….
tyempo naman sa Presidente pa ko napadpad… aba grabe…. culture shock ang lolo mo… kahit san ka mapatingin…. BABALIK karin….
sabi nga dun sa kanta di ba… anumang layo ang narating… singapore, australia, europe o amerika…. akma ba? di yata….
 
Nyways… Lumipas ang panahon…. actually ang bilis nga eh…. parang mga sasakyan humaharurot sa SZR twing araw ng Biyernes, fast forward, grabe almost 4 na taon na pala ako dito… ano na nga ba mga nangyari??? Isa, dalawa, tatlo, apat… ehhhhhh…. sabi nga ng mga pana.. ek.. do… tin… char… punch…. (yun po ang pagbilang ng mga pana) …. i lost count, ang hirap kaya… ang hirap palang ganun… kung sino sinong kababaihan ang “minahal” ko at nagpasasa sa aking BODY hehehe pero sa bandang huli… ayun… eto… OK lang hehehe!
BUT YOU KNOW WHAT… alam nyo ba….. sa mga kababaihang nagdaan sa aking buhay may kanya kanyang bagay at aral na iniwan sa aking pagkatao…
 
Sa kanila aking natutunan… what woman needs most is love, whereas we guys needs the most is… not LUST but RESPECT. The most important thing for a girl is her heart.
For a guy its his ego. Hmmmm….

Ok..  let us put some degree and semblance of seriousness here….

Para sa mga kababaihan…. Give your man his own time and space. Let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self, and God.
Magiging lantang gulay and boring ang relasyon if lagi kayong magkasama. Give us time and space to miss you ladies and you’ll see how we will love you more.
 
Do things differently anytime. Do it in different position, different place, sa kwarto, sa bed, sa lapag, sa kitchen, sa banyo hehehe!
Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and new. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting baga ang tawag doon.

Discover something that you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. And do it in the privacy of your HOME ba tawag dun??? Eh pulos bedspace at parition kaya dito.

Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkakonra kayo, try na lang to compliment each other by learningabout it kahit paunti-unti.
If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a looooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Sa maniwala kat sa hindi - yes ako ang nagsasabi nito : Pray while you holds the hand of your loved one. Sounds corny noh? Maybe, but its very powerful.

Pag may takot sa Diyos ang partner mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because He knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that
before you part after date, with hands held and eyes closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me it’s effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Believe in “Magic”. Kahit minsan di practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things for the one you love kahit
magmukha ka ng timang. The memories will be fun to recall later in life. Di mo mapapansin natatawa ka sa mga nagdaan sa buhay mo.

True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your partner and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

It’s healthy to fight, wag lang magkaka black eyean. You’ll see dun nyo matetest ang tatag ng relasyon. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti.
Its called test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is how often you make bati. Batiin mo sya… magpabati sya sayo, magbati kayo….

everytym na mag-aaway kayo. Di ok ang relasyong sobrang perfect at laging masaya. Believe me One big fight and that’s it!
And di ba mas kilig yung malambing na… “uy, bati na tayo…”. But don’t be OAt. Kakapagod kaya yung lagi ka na lang nanuyo o nagsosori. 
Dapat maging mapili ka rin sa mga away na papatulan mo.

Life is about growth not growing old. Grow with it but not grow old with it.

At eto naman ang masakit na parte…. When break up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love you had just because it didn’t last.

May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn’t mean na di ito totoo. Totoo kaya ako sa kanila…. Yun nga lang some good things are just never meant to last forever.
Okay lang yon. Iyak ka lang then move on. Ker ba nila? At ker nila sa ker mo? Kerbear?

Expect mo na yung tears, pain, sleepless nights and be ready with depression. Ika nga “it’s when you hurt the worse that you love the MOST.”

Shocks! Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka na lang magmahal.

Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man and when to let him go. Madalas lang matigas talaga ang ulo at puso natin, alam naman nating dapat ng E-LET GO….. ginogoyo mo pa sarili mo.

 

It is…

October 21st, 2008

It’s nice to know that you’re secured with that someone. That even if the rain is pouring hard and the sky is almost dark, he’ll never leave you just so you won’t feel alone. Even if his friends had left him (and even if he has to be somewhere else) he’d still stay by your side, just so you won’t feel alone.

It’s so good to know that you have someone who’ll be willing to help you cope up in every frustrations you’re having. Every depressing moments, every down moments, every self-worthless-realization moments, he’d be there, not because you want someone to be with you, but because he wants to be with you.

It’s great to know when a person appreciates every little thing you do. Even a smile would mean a lot to him, just because you own that smile. And that even if no words are expressed as long as the eyes understand, you’d be able to communicate, just like that.

It’s overwhelming when a person tells you that he loves you for who you are. He may not have an answer when you ask him why, but really, he doesn’t have to have reasons for loving you.

It’s more grateful to know that someone is grateful to have you. We don’t choose the people who enter our lives, so it must be luck that you have that person, then you have to be thankful. It may just be coincidence or fate, but whatever the reason is, you have to be thankful in having him the same way he is thankful for having you.

It’s a wonderful feeling when you’re on the verge of giving up the things you’ve worked hard for, someone isn’t just helping you carry the weight on your shoulders, but he carries it on his own because he’d also be in pain when you are in pain. And then you’ll realize, trials would all be worth it as long as you have him, not because he would do things for you, but because you gather all the strength you need, in him and his love.

It’s a superb feeling when one is willing to take the risks just so you’ll be happy. Unselfishness rule in him just so happiness would take over you.

It’s a nice feeling that when you’re apart, and days seem to be long, that person misses you. Yes, you might feel bad about not being with each other, but knowing that you feel the same way would drive those blues away, thinking, you’d fight over that feeling because you’re looking forward to seeing each other, and that’s something to be happy about.

It’s a great feeling when he wants to be with you because of the happiness you have when you’re together. That even if corny jokes and senseless stories are told, it won’t matter as long as you’re together.

It’s a lovely feeling when someone thinks about your future, with or without him. He cares and he cares enough to think of you and what you’ll be someday. But of course, he also wants to be in it someday.

It’s a nice feeling when you can be who you really are with that person. No pretentions, no lies, no hypocrisy, because he accepts you for who you are. You can be funny, you can be embarrased, but it won’t matter coz it doesn’t matter to him. Trust and faith in each other keeps you alive. And it will always do.

It’s good to know that you have someone who’ll not have the intentions of breaking your heart. Instead, he would be willing to mend it, picking up the broken pieces of your heart that your past love have scattered in the ground. He may not be able to put the pieces back to where they really belong, but you shouldn’t mind, because he had repaired that heart of yours, and he fixed it in his own way. He loves you in his own way, not the way your past did. He fixed your heart in a different way, to keep you from feeling the pains of your past heartache and to make you feel, the love, that he’s unselfishly giving.

It’s a great feeling when that person has every effort to let you feel what he feels for you. Because of the distractions, you may not hear him shout it to the world, but as long as you feel it, his efforts has paid off, big time. And when you feel the same way too… He’d feel as if he’s the luckiest person alive.

… when in fact, you’re more blessed to have him.

love… en let go…

June 30th, 2008

What are the chances that after suffering from all the pains and heartaches, a person can still recover??? Well, I guess it always depends on the person who experiences those things… and a big part of it is accepting the fact that the there are things that you don’t expect to happened… But you know, every little thing that happen in this world has always a reason… it is for us to dig deeper on the real meaning of what is happening around us… For me, I thought that I will not surpass the pains and the hardships that I’ve been through… I almost give up… If I could remember, there are no days or nights that I never shed a tear… Being alone is a torture… being in a place wherein you do not know what is waiting for you is a puzzle… alone in a place where you do not know what you are in to…but this is the path that I decided to take…so I have to be strong enough to face the consequences that I will encounter and just struggle for the best…

Recovering from the pain is like recovering from a terminal cancer that you’ll never know when and where it will lead you… it can lead you into a place, which I believe, you don’t want to belong… like ICU… a mental hospital… or if worst comes to worst… it can lead you to death… but for me, those things won’t happen if you won’t allow yourself to be buried in the midst of depression and hatred…

Well… now… I can say that, finally, I recovered!!!… Why???… Simple… I just let go of the things that causes me so much pain… although, sometimes it still hurts every time it occurs to my mind… you know what really helps me get through it… it’s because, I have found here, someone who makes me feel special in his own little ways… someone, who knows to listen… who knows to think… who makes me laugh… although sometimes…no, most of the times we argue a lot without knowing what is the reason for that argument… crazy, right?… yes, we are both crazy I think… hahahaha… I do not know what is in him that every time I think of him, I’ll just found myself smiling… and then, frowning after I go back to my senses and think of the reality that he is planning to get married already… I know you will say that oh my God here you are again… but what will I do???… I never asked for this… I just felt it… I am only human… I wish I don’t have a heart so I won’t feel anything anymore… but this is the truth of life… if you love, then you should be ready to get hurt… the world is just revolving into these two words I guess… loving and hurting… going back to this someone… yes, he is planning to get married (and I hope he didn’t)… and I am happy for him… I know that he will be a good provider… a good husband… and a good father to his children someday… I am just lucky that at least, even for a short period of time we’ve spent sometime together… even if we barely knows each other, he trusted me… he open-up himself to me… and the important thing is I know I am happy being with him… just talking to him… and I hope I make him happy too in my own little way… and the sad part of these story is that he went back to his hometown… (but not for good) … yeah right, it hurts… let’s just say that this is another chapter of my life… loving and letting go again… I just hope that he will be happy for whatever decision that he make…. I am pretty sure that he is really happy; I always pretend that I don’t know anything at all… I guess you would say that I was never the lucky one but somehow I found luck because I found him…and I thought at first I have found the missing piece of me but then I was wrong again… because he is another person who took away  another piece of me…  I am trying to ignore this craziness I feel for him but you know I think if you can’t get someone out of your mind, maybe they’re meant to be there… isn’t it weird how you can spill everything out to a stranger but when the time comes to tell the one you love how you really for him… nothing comes out!… It hurts to think that loving him is just a mistake again… but denying my feelings is something I wouldn’t take… I know I am stupid to feel this way again… I accept it… I maybe not perfect for them but I am just being true to myself… I am not hiding anything to anyone… what you see is the real me…

In my search for a true faithful love, I have been turned down a thousand times… but I still believe in it the way I believe that the sun will eventually rise after a rainy day… Love is like life… it’s unpredictable and you never know when it will come… just live the moment, and when you least expects it… you will find the one… A perfect love only exist in our dreams… in real life we should learn to appreciate the one that comes along… someone not perfect… yet, REAL…

Just a reminder, a love is just one more excuse to get hurt… so, if you will tell someone that you love him/ her, you’d better mean it or else just don’t be in it at all…

…wala lang…

June 18th, 2008

Paano ko ba ito sisimulan… Ang hirap ng pakiramdam ng nag-iisa… walang makausap… halos pakiramdam mo ikaw na lang ang tao sa mundong ibabaw… pero alam mo at nararamdaman mo na marami naman tao sa paligid mo… pero bakit ganun… kahit anung pilit mong kalimutan at iwasan ang isang bagay na alam mong nakakasakit sayo eh hindi mo magawa… bakit kahit alam mong talo ka at wala kang laban pilit mo pa rin sinasaktan ang sarili mo… bakit kahit anung pilit mong maging masaya eh hindi mo magawa… bakit kapag gusto mong may kausap eh hindi mo nman magawang sabihin ang nasa loob mo… natatakot ka dahil hindi mo alam kung ano ang magiging reaksyon nila sa gusto mo sabihin… natatakot ka na mahusgahan ang pagkatao mo… natatakot ka na baka kapag nalaman nila ang nangyayari sau eh layuan  ka nila at hindi ka nila maintindihan…

Akala siguro nila, kapag nakikita nilang tumatawa ka eh masaya ka at walang problema… akala nila na sa tuwing nagpapatawa ka eh wala kang nararamdamang kalungkutan… akala siguro nila na dahil hindi ka nila nakikitang umiyak ay strong ka na… lahat sila yun ang akala sayo… matapang, lahat kinakaya… pero anmg hindi nila alam… sa likod ng mga pagtawa mo… sa likod ng mga ngiti mo… sa likod ng mga pagpapatawa mo… ay umiiyak ang puso mo… na nakakaramdaman ka rin ng takot… na nalulungkot ka rin…. na gusto mo ng sumuko… na gusto mo ng bumigay… dahil hindi mo na kaya… dahil napapagod ka din…

Minsan maiisip mo na lang, na sana bumalik ka na lang sa pagiging bata… walang pinoproblema… walang iniisip… hindi makakaramdam ng sakit… matakot ka man, alam mong may pwedeng kumalinga sau at handang alisin ang takot sa dibdib mo… yun dati na, maglalaro ka lang habang nagpapa-ulan… tapos uuwi at kakain na lang ng meryenda na ginawa ng nanay mo… ang  sarap alalahanin ang nakaraan nung ikaw ay bata pa… pag gising mo sa umaga may nkahanda ng gatas at almusal sa lamesa nyo… kakain ka na lang… at pagkatapos ay manonood ng telebisyon at makikipaglaro sa labas ng bahay… at pag napagod, uuwe ulet, magmemeryenda, maglalaro ulet… di mo namamalayan tapos na naman ang maghapon… sana ganun lang kadali ang buhay ngaun… simple pero masaya… hindi komplikado…

Pero hindi mo na maaaring ibalik ang nakaraan… kung kaya kelanagan mong harapin ang komplikadong buhay na meron ka ngaun… harapin ang lahat ng responsibilidad na nasa balikat mo… harapin ang mundo mo ngaun na malayo sa pamilya mo… harapin ang hirap ng buhay para sa mga taong umaasa sayo… harapin ang katotohanan na kahit alam mong masasaktan ka lang patuloy ka pa ring nagmamahal… ganyan siguro talaga ang buhay… hindi mawawala ang mga pagsubok… nakahit anung pilit mong iwasan ang problema… pilit pa rin itong humahabol sau… na kahit anung iwas among magmahal at masaktan muli… pilit pa rin itong nagsusumiksik sa puso mo… ewan ko ba… nasa sistema na ata ng buhay ng isang tao ang lahat ng ito… kailan kaya magkakaroon ng medisina para maiwasan ang mga ganitong bagay… parang sa sakit di ba… para makaiwas sa mga karamdaman may maga bitamina tayo na pedeng inumin… sana ganun din ang buhay naten… para makaiwas sa mga problema at pasakit meron ding mga medisina na pedeng inumin na lang… para lahat tayo ay maging masaya na lng… para hindi na tayo nahihirapan… para hindi na tayo nasasaktan…

Hanggang ilusyon na lang siguro ang lahat… hindi na talaga naten maiiwasan ang mga bagay na ito… kung kaya, kailangan pa ring ituloy ang buhay kahit anung hirap man ito… isipin mo na lang na bida ka sa isang teleserye… na pagkatapos ng napakahabang panahon na maranasan ang lahat ng hirap, problema at sakit… iikot din ang gulong ng buhay mo… na darating ang araw… magiging masaya ka na… magiging maayos din ang lahat… na may makakasama ka na… at kahit kailan hindi ka na mag-iisa….

my one true love…

March 24th, 2008

Sometimes when you are alone and nothing to do, you’ll just find yourself thinking of some things that you don’t even know what to think of…. Right now, I am in my office in front of my computer again…doing nothing…. thinking of things…. thinking of my children…. thinking what are they doing right now… do they eat their lunch already… or are they still in school… oh how I wish I am always there with them….eating  together…laughing together…playing together… But because of the circumstances that is happening around us… I chose to leave them… I leave them not because I wanted to escape from the burdens or obligations that I have for them…I leave them for some personal reasons…. I leave them because I know I can give them a brighter future ahead of them… and I leave them, because I wanted to find myself again….

Being a single parent is really a tough job to do, especially in my case… if I can recall, I got married at the age of 20… it is a very hard decision for me, because honestly speaking I do not want to get married at that time even if I am having a baby with my boyfriend for 6 years… I told to my mother that I am not yet ready for that… unfortunately she didn’t listen to me…. And you know what is the saddest part of that… well, my father didn’t come to my wedding day… and he didn’t even bother to call me up and even say ‘hey, my princess congratulations!!’… maybe because, he doesn’t want to see me getting into something that he knows I do not want to do… my father knows me very well…. He knows how to stop me from crying… he knows when to make me laugh… and he also knows how to make me cry…

Going back to the hardship of being a parent, I gave birth to my first child…. A bouncing baby boy…. You know what, when I first saw my baby, I really cried… I never imagine that I can bear a child… and give life to him…. I said to myself, this is my angel I am waiting for to come… this baby will change everything for me… THIS BABY IS MY LIFE!!! I strive hard to finish my college and I made it… I graduated… I look for a job for me to provide the needs for my child… my mother is with still with me along the way… maybe you are wondering where is the father of my child… sad to say, it didn’t worked out…. Imagine, we’ve been together for 6 years as boyfriends and we only live 9 months together as husband and wife… maybe you’ll ask, why? I decided to be separated than to live with a person who do not respect me as a person and do not even know how to respect my parents… who would have thought that within six years of being with him I never noticed the real him… it is because I love him…. And I was blind to see the real him… it is true that, you can only know the person better until you live with him in one roof… and to make the long story short….it is a failure!!! Two years has passed and I met another guy…I thought he is the answer to my prayers… we live together… he promised that he will take care of me and my son… my mother is against our relationship… because she believes that it will never be the way I expected it to be… I got pregnant with my second child….a baby girl!!! She looks like me… she’s so lovely…. I cried again for joy… I thought that this is the beginning of having a good family…. One happy family… but I guess, I was wrong… my mother is right… it will never happen the way I expected it to happen…I leave him… leaving my daughter to him, is very painful for me… but I don’t have the choice… I have to leave the soonest possible time…. Or else I’ll be dead by now…. I just wished that my mother is still here comforting me… taking care of me… and telling me “My child, don’t worry everything will be alright… I will be here, I’ll take care of your children… I know you are a tough girl like me…. be strong!”… That is what my mother always tells me if she saw me crying… I wish you were here, inay…. and I know, you are just up there watching over my children…. watching over me…. watching over us….God, I miss my inay so much!!!

I am longing for my children so much… I miss their smiles, I miss how they hug me to death, I miss the times when we are going in the mall….watching them playing around…. I miss the times that we eat together… sharing stories that they did in their school….exchanging sweet glances every time they are telling white lies… I miss the times when they will come running to me every time I fetch them from school… I miss the times when the three of us will wrestle each other like the wrestlers in WWE… I miss their kisses everyday before I leave the house… I miss cooking for them…  I miss taking a bath together with them… scrubbing their whole body…. I miss teaching them their lessons… and if there are times that they won’t listen… I’ll just sit down and keep silent…. and you know what they are going to do…. they will tickle me over and over again……hahahaha I am now about to get crazy….crying and then smiling….haaayyyyy…

Well, I guess I should not think that I am a failure….yes, I am not a failure… I have two precious gems with me… my two achievements…. And nothing can ever replace them…. There is nothing more important to me than my two kids….

Racing children is a no joke… it takes a lot of time, courage, heartaches and sacrifices… my children are my life… I will do anything for them… I will give my life to them….

They are the reason why I keep on fighting…. they are my inspirations… they are the reason why I need to be strong… the reason why I need to be tough….. THEY ARE MY HEART…. THEY ARE MY BREATH…. THEY ARE MY LIFE…. AND THEY WILL ALWAYS BE…. MY ONE TRUE LOVE…….

gettin over with…

March 24th, 2008

People may think that being in love is the best thing that will ever happen to someone else’s life…but for me, being in love is insane!!! I’ve had a lot of experiences already trying to prove to myself that, someday I will find my one true love….unfortunately, I think it will never happen… You know, I had two children with two different men… and right now I am trying to forget someone that really causes me pain… I am really in pain!!!! I am still asking myself what is wrong about me… why do I need to suffer all these pains…what did I do wrong??? Why do I need to have children without their father with them? Why am I not successful in having a good relationship…? It only answers to one thing…it’s because I fall in love…. I fall in love with a wrong person… For God sake, why am I doing this… Letting myself to be hurt by the one I truly love… Yes, you heard it right… I truly love this guy….the guy, who is married already and has 4 children….the guy whom I love since high school… I know it is wrong to love him, but what can I do? I just felt it… we always say that we are only humans… and we are not perfect… everybody commits mistakes, right??? But the thing is, we people should know when to let go and until what is our limitations… For me, I had asses myself… and I think I go beyond my limitations… that’s why, I’m hurting inside… I allow myself to let these things happen to me, and I only got me to blame… regardless of these things, I take this as a challenge… why? Because, I know I can overcome these things… because I’ve been here before… it’s just a matter of time… because I believe that time heals all wounds…

But you know, forgetting someone I love is really a hard time for me… I don’t know what is in him, that I can’t control myself from crying, every time I think of him… I am trying not to think of him anymore, but it doesn’t work… maybe because, I found in him what I am looking for… although our relationship is very complicated… and this is the reason why I decided to let him go… even if he doesn’t want to… I insisted, because I know that this is the right thing to do… and even if this hurts me a lot, I know that I made the right decision… not only for me but most of all for the children that surrounds us… I am just praying and hoping that in time I can forget everything about him… I believe that in God’s time, everything will fall into its proper places… I just hope that, this time will be soon enough… before its too late…

For now, I am very much thankful because even if I am far away from my children and family… I found a family here… a family that I can cry on… a family that accepts me for who I am without questions and hesitations…a family that understands my past…a family that pushes me to stand up again… a family that loves me unconditionally… a family which I will keep forever in my life…

Don’t be afraid to love (even if you think it’s insane)… because, from these you will learn a lot that will help you know yourself better…the more you hurt, the more stronger person you become…

So as for now, I’ll just enjoy my life being single…and live my life to the fullest….carry on, life is too short to get wasted…..mwaaaaahhhh…